Doing what’s right for the child...
Adoption is first and foremost about what is best for the child/children involved. In all too many relationships involving a divorce or a failed relationship the child or children have been abandoned by the absent birth parent: no communication, no support, no contact. Most children are not old enough to fully comprehend what an adoption truly means except all children want and crave belonging and being a complete and irrevocable part of the family unit. All children need to know they belong and they are loved, without condition, by their parents.
What Adopted Children need to know:
- That they are loved by their relatives and by both of their biological parents.
- That they did not cause their non-custodial parent to abandon them.
- That they are an accepted and valued member of the family.
- That it is okay for them to love their natural parents.
- That it is okay for them to miss and/or think about their missing biological parent.
- That it is okay for them to talk about missing the biological parent.
- That it is okay for them to have feelings of mixed emotions on special days or at other times.